We all are have friends.. at least most of us! Some have a very few and some have hundreds. Friendship is the only relation which is we create and which do not depend on which family we were born in. However I am not here to define friendship for that you can watch movies, read books and sing songs…
I am here to just share my thoughts about what I learned today….
I believe that in the beginning we consider everyone one as our friends and slowly and slowly we trim our list; that’s completely fine. We accept friend’s request from strangers and then start talking to them and we come to know that he/she is nothing but an idiot. We drop him/ her off the list. And seriously; if someone removes you from their friend’s list..oh my god; that’s virtual murder.
In short we play the game of “innocent until proven guilty”.
But then here is something my elder brother Navin Bhaiya told me when I was leaving home for college. He told me not to start talking to everyone on the very first day; observe everyone first and then make friends. It’s not that you are never going to talk to anyone but it’s always better to know at least something about the other person before hand.
Now why I am saying this now on my post?? Just because it takes time, effort and lot of commitment to make friends and when the friends separate everything goes in vain.
I am blessed with only a few friends but I can proudly say that there is not even a single day I am not proud of them. It’s not that we talk, chat everyday it’s never necessary but we know that we are there for each other anytime, anywhere.
Facebook says I have around 380 friends of which around 20 are online all the time but thats just a false truth. The friend is someone who says WHEN not WHY? when you need them.
This thought came in my mind when one of my so called acquaintances lied straight on my face with full confidence 🙂 Thank god I don’t have many friends I would have been watching Big bang theory right now just to cheer myself 😛
PS: I am proud to have friends from all over the world even prouder of the people I truly know. You all have administrative privileges over me..
Dedicated to all my friends..with whom I celebrate friendship day everyday!
Another month passed in the Ashram a lot of things happened. A lot of classes, traveling and shopping!!!! The worst time of the month as I call it… the course finished!
Time to say Good bye to Juryeong ( one of the senior most student in the Ashram, Going to start her second innings! very soon). We got along very well. Ever smiling and always happy.
Time passed and I never realized that it’s almost the end of the month. She left for home yesterday. I wish she could have stayed a bit longer.
Time to make new friends but it doesn’t mean I am ever gonna forget my other friends. Technically I remember every single friend of mine and how or when we met. I am an Engineer right.. razor sharp memory
Will miss you Harry Potter! 🙂
One of the most frequently asked question in todays world is – where are you heading towards??? or in other words what are your plans for the future? These questions seems to irritate everyone but unfortunately they are genuine questions… come- on we need to figure out what we are going to do next.
In my case, fortunately I am on your side… I haven’t figured it out too. For the entire world I am a computer freak but I reality I don’t know what to do next. However I am getting a lot of help from friends and I am really working hard to figure it out but in the mean time I have decided to do one thing- I am not going to let myself sit quiet and settle on one place. I just need to keep working on something or the other. I need to work hard and really quick.
However sometimes people are so busy working for their future that they forget their present. and end up losing everything. We are here to live not to race with someone else!
Enough of tension let me share some pictures! Quick peek into my life!
These are some of my new friends (not facebook friends) from around the globe….
Well, making friends is easy for me now, but staying in touch with them is very difficult. In the last 2-3 months I have made a number of friends but I don’t know how many of them remember me well………. Sad, but true! By the way I remember each and every one them, from the moment I first met them to the moment they left. computer engineer!! Razor sharp memory!
“A smile takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever…..”
Cambridge university says- “Friend is a person who you know well and who you like a lot, but who is usually not a member of your family”
Google says- “Friend is a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of family relations.
Wikipedia says- “ well in this case it does not says anything it just redirects the page to “friendship”
Old English frēond, of Germanic origin; related to Dutch vriend and German Freund, from an Indo-European root meaning ‘to love’,
Enough of theoretical crap!
In simple words…….. well, you don’t need an actual word to define your friend, you just know it.
- you don’t need words to talk with a friend, you just communicate
- you don’t need to ask anything from your friend, you just get it
- you don’t need facebook, twitter, etc to be friends, just need to feel..
I am not the right person to talk about friends but I know one thing that I can read eyes and as far as I know, eyes never lie. So just look into the other person’s eyes and you will know it. Then of course facebook, twitter are always there to lie about……………….
“The only way to have friends is to be one”
hey…. don’t think of me, Ralph Waldo Emerson said that.
Technically I am not a very friendly person. I don’t talk much on phone, facebook , sms etc, may be that’s the reason I don’t have many friends. But hey…….. I am improving day by day, minute by minute, second by second… Beware! of Mahendra, he may turn up to be your friend.